Hatred is not an emotion that comes naturally to a child; it has to be taught. A parent who would teach a child to hate or fear the other parent represents a grave and persistent danger to the mental and emotional health of that child.
What began as Zack expressing that he’s not UNcomfortable as his Dad’s, but he’s just MORE comfortable at his Mom’s therefore he wanted to spend Memorial Day weekend with her… has turned into an entire summer of contact denial. Zack’s communication with his Dad has deteriorated. Sam has received fewer and more hostile texts from 12 year old Zack as the summer has progressed. Missy, in rare exchanges with Sam, repeats that she is respecting Zack’s feelings, and that he is old enough to choose to not see his father. As school begins, the regular parenting schedule should resume, but Sam has received no information from Missy or the school district regarding Zack’s transportation plan to and from Sam’s house on what should be their evenings and mornings together.
Meanwhile, no strides have been made in court. Missy received papers in early July regarding the contact denial (which elicited an angry text from Zack to Sam about Zack’s outrage that Sam has “put him in this position”). Missy’s attorney filed for, and won, a continuance. A meeting between attorneys and court officials is finally due to happen on the same week that school begins. Summer 2017 has been an unequivocal loss for Sam and Zack and the entire side of the family that Zack, with Missy’s blessing, has rejected.