What’s wrong?

Missy called Zack every day when he was with Sam. And Zack always began the call (even as a big kid) with a whispery babyish, “Hi Mama.” And she would immediately ask, “What’s wrong?”

Life has been hard for Zack. But it never had to be. His dad, Sam, was always willing to work with his mom, Missy, to do the right things for Zack, but Missy always snapped and snarled and belittled him. HER behavior has put Zack in a lifelong position to feel that there is something wrong in his world. And Missy has made it clear that ALL wrongness in Zack’s life emanates from his dad.

An analogy: Missy’s younger son, with her new husband, has severe food allergies. Does she act like her unfortunate son’s life has been impacted by some horrible force? Does she apologize to him every time he has to eat a different dinner than the rest of his family in a way that makes him feel wrong about himself and furious at the perceived cause of his allergies? Or does she deal with the unique needs of his life matter-of-factly and without judgment? A life without hardship was available to Zack, with cooperative divorced parents, if his mother would have dealt with his two-home life without malice. But she didn’t. Everyone in Zack’s family, particularly Sam, stepmom Melanie and the Baker grandparents, has suffered.

Zack has suffered most of all.

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