Source: http://www.wbur.org/hereandnow/2017/08/28/overparenting-how-to-raise-an-adult (screen shot below)
National Public Radio’s Here and Now segment recently featured the author of How to Raise an Adult. The interview was fascinating and Ms. Lythcott-Haims pulls no punches about how to begin to STOP over-parenting children. Number one is: Stop saying “we,” when referring to the child’s activities — WE have soccer practice, WE have to work on our spelling words, etc.
The information in this broadcast combined with knowledge and experience with parental alienation was a gut punch. What if the vindictive narcissist parent is ALSO an over-parenting parent? Maybe this is a no-brainer, and maybe ALL alienators exhibit these patterns of “velcro-parent” behavior, too. And good god, how is any child under the influence of a person like this ever supposed to achieve any sort of independence with decision-making and self-confidence?